Wednesday, April 18, 2007
What's Wrong With This Picture?
Sorry I have been MIA again lately. There have been plenty of topics to write about but no time to sit and complete a coherent thought. Take your pick...stomach virus? Puke? Birthday party? Cake decorating classes? More puke? Anyone takers? I thought so.
But that I will save for another day. My dilemma today is this and I apologize if it is TMI for some of you but this is afterall my blog so sorry if I offend...
I could care less about sex.
It's horrible and it is causing major problems with my marriage. It has nothing to do with my love or attraction to my husband. I love him with all my heart and I still think he is a sexy as he was the day I met him. I just have absolutely no interest. I'm not really even sure why. The only think I can think of is I am so tired and preoccupied with everything that I have to do on a daily basis that I can't let myself relax enough to get in the right mindset. And I have never been one of those kinds of do it anywhere-anytime kind of girls.
I thought that once a woman hit her 30's that her libido was supposed to increase? Mine has done the complete opposite. Since I have had the kids, it just doesn't interest me anymore. I wish I could say it is my medication, but the prescription ran out and I haven't been back to the Dr. to get more. So I really have no clue as to what is going on other than my husband is VERY unhappy with me right now and rightfully so.
I know that it is something that I have to get over if I want our marriage to work. And I want it to work- more than I want anything in the world. I just don't know where to start. AM spent the night on the couch last night after another one of my rejections.
*(Honey~ if you are reading this I am truly sorry and I feel like total dog shit. You aren't asking too much for me to show you a little love and affection. I'm not going to go on and on with a bunch of promises because you say you have heard them all before. All I will say is that actions WILL speak louder than words for a change. I LOVE YOU!)*
At this point I am just at a loss for where to start, but I know that start I must. I guess I should call and make an appointment with Dr. O soon. I need a yearly physical anyway. I just want to be able to make AM happy and I know that this isn't too much to ask of me. I am his wife and the last thing I want is for him to search out someone who will give him what I won't.
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3 Comments:
It isn't just you, it happened to me. I think with the stress and hectic everyday crap that goes on that you must experience as a mom and as a woman who works, you are probably just worn out. It is like the last thing any woman in your position thinks about!! Don't worry about it, but if it is really bothering your husband then you have to try. Put the kids to bed early and force yourself to do it, lol. In about 5 minutes you'll be glad you did :-)
I think most women don't walk around all day thinking of "humping"(nice word ehh? That should wreck it for you for sure): But though you may be tired you will be so glad you did it in the end. I did not mean it like that. lol
You may already know this, but lack of libido is a sign of clinical depression. Ask you doctor about that when you go in. There are several anti-depressants that do not have sexual side effects. That said, this is perfectly normal for a working woman who has children. We all are at the point were sex is just one more thing on our to-do list and sleep looks a lot more attractive. There is a lot your husband can do to get you in the mood. Does he help around the house? One night, he could get the kids to bed by himself while you take a bubble bath. Getting yourself cleaned up and relaxed will help your frame of mind too. There are books you can read, movies you can watch together. Try your local sex shop - go in together - just laughing together at some of the stuff helps! If you have fun together, without all the worry and angst of everyday life, it's easier to think of your partner as your sexual partner again instead of just the parent of your children. good luck - email me if you want to talk some more.
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