Been busy in munchkin land. I took the kiddos to see Thomas the Train a few weeks ago. Wild Man is just a little obsessed. Poor little guy. We stopped at Bojangles on the way out of town and I got them both something to drink. The drive to Spencer, NC was about an hour away and wouldn't you know it...RIGHT before we got there he had an accident. But Mommy to the rescue. I changed him and then we were off to see Thomas and ride trains all day. They were in heaven.
That's right. I will be on the floor laughing at all the other middle aged woman screaming like tween girls. It ought to be fun. And I get to meet up with two long-lost high school friends before the concert. I can't wait.
I read several blogs. Many more than I should actually. One such blog is near and dear to my heart. Well, this blogger has a sister. A sister that many revere as a blogging-goddess of sorts. To hear them all comment on her you would think that she has sunshine and daisies flying out of her ass. However, to hear her sister’s take on the whole situation is a completely different scenario. Even before I knew the whole sibling situation, I didn’t really like “the other sister”. Her blog, to me is condescending and rude to many people, even though I don’t think that she usually means them to be that way. But since I don't know either in real life, it is one side against the other. I just happened to choose a different side.
I know what you might be thinking. Why do I even bother to read her blog if I hate her so much? The answer… I don’t hate her. I wish that things were different between her and her family but I am not remotely involved so I really could care less. I don’t wish for violent or terrible things to happen to her or her family. She also has some really good recipes sometimes. What I do wish is that she would pull the giant stick that is up her ass out and let the past go and make up with her sister already. But that is ultimately between them and it is only hurting them when they continue to allow things to go on that way they have been for many years. That and I wish she didn’t come off as being all high and mighty all the time. But eh, that is just my opinion and it is her blog so she can write whatever she wants however she wants. Just like I can comment that I don’t agree with her or like what she has to say. That is why they invented turning the comments off. Come one come all I say!
I have commented on her blog several times. And those comments weren’t the usual “You are so great” blah blah blah that she has become accustom to in her years of blogging. They weren’t necessarily all that ugly (I have seen and received some rather nasty ones myself) but they didn’t blow smoke up her ass either. I have to admit that part of it was to stick up for my friend or cause her just a tiny bit of distress for the emotional turmoil that my friend was being subjected to. But I never harassed or threatened her. I just let it be known that I didn’t think that she was all that and a bag of chips like everyone else. I have never called this person out here on my blog or posted her blog address or personal information for all to see. She has, however, done that to me. After one such disapproving comment, she posted my blog name and blog address for all her loyal followers to see. I personally believe that it was so they would come and attack me, as she felt that she was being attacked. Funny thing is…not one person left any comments on what a horrible person I am. So maybe I am not as evil and jealous as she thinks I am?
Anyway. Last week she posted something along the lines of she and her husband had a tiff because she wanted to spend time with her husband but insinuated that she would rather go to the gym (or somewhere) and she and her husband had another long discussion about her not getting enough me time [paraphrased of course]. She is a stay at home mom and wanted out of the house. While I completely understand needing some me time, from reading her posts she does a hell of a lot without her kids in tow (she said her self she gets out of the house around 3 times a week). My perception of the post (and at least a few others if I understood the comments correctly) was that she was whining that she had to stay home instead of going out. This hit a cord with me since I can’t remember when the last time was that I got to go somewhere without the kids and husband on a regular basis. But that isn’t the point of this post. Once I (and a few others) left a post on the contrary, out came the ugly comments and the "leave me alone if you can’t agree with me" replies. Then she started posting about cyber stalking, retribution, and litigation for harassment over the internet. And is it a coincidence that this punished person is from the same state as me? Or that the comment for the original naysayer is still posted on her blog, but my comments (which were no where as “rude” as the original poster) are MIA? Supposedly her “lawyer friend” passed along this tidbit of information for her. (Wow! I should be a lawyer as it took me all of 10 seconds to google the same article).
Here’s the thing that burns my ass. I haven’t ever threatened her or her family any harm in any way, shape, or form. Aggravate? I am sure I have based on her reaction. And I have only commented on her blog a few times. I have never made false accusations, traced her IP address and followed her around the internet, looked up her address and phone number, encouraged others to harass by disclosing personal information, ordered anything in her name, etc. By stating that she has looked up a name, address, and phone number illustrates that she too is stalking. It is a two way street there darlin’. Could I be sued? I highly doubt it.
I am sure that she will come on here and read this. I didn’t post this “to get back” her. I just want to illustrate the ridiculousness of it all. Do I expect some hate mail/comments? Sure. Do I care? No. They don’t know me and I don’t know them. Think what you will. This is an open and public blog. I can’t control what people comment here other than denying the comment or deleting it all together. In a perfect world, a blogger could post a “Be Nice or Go Away” disclaimer, but since it is a public forum anything you publish on the internet is open for discussion. Why waste your breath. If I didn’t want peoples opinions (good and bad), I wouldn’t ask for them.
I talked with the girls about the situation the last few weeks. They shared that they were overwhelmed trying to help WM connect with the group since they had some many other little ones to teach at the same time. I believe you spoke with L last week. She says she never meant to imply that you should not bring your kids back. She was just offering a possibility that maybe a few more months would give WM some time to be able to handle the program when he is a just a little bit older and maybe he’d be more interested at that time. But of course the choice is totally up to you! They said that DQ was doing wonderful and seemed to really enjoy the choir. I’d hate for her to have to miss out too. Thank you for sharing your concerns with me. Please know that WM and DQ are both welcome. My personal thoughts (even though I’m not there to see any of it!) are maybe let DQ continue and then see if WM is a little more interested after Christmas. But again – do what you think is best. The most important thing to us is that we teach our kids to sing about Jesus. We’ll do that the best ways we can.
Thanks again for letting me know about everything. Let me know if there is anything else I can do to help. grace and peace".
I am sad. That's the only emotion I can feel right now. I fight back the tears as I sit here at work. I was so looking forward to seeing my little ones sing and participate in the plays. I am glad that DQ is still small enough that she won't notice that we aren't going to choir anymore. I just can't justify letting her do choir AND dance while WM gets to do nothing. Not to mention I don't have the time or the money for gas to be running back and forth two nights in a row.
AM and I have talked about it and we are going to revisit our old church. The main reason we left was because of the lack of opportunity for our kids. But the "bigger and better" church has left us out in the cold too many times. At least those at our original church seemed to care about us and wanted us around. Going to church shouldn't take this much effort to belong. At least that is how I feel.
And to top it all off, I just called Time Warner Cable and even though they have a damn line running in my yard I can't get service with them. So I am stuck with crappy cable, no high speed cable, and a too high bill that will be going up in a matter of months just so I can watch Basic Plus cable on all my TV's. Either that of spend another $1000 on new TV's. :sigh:
What a great way to start out the week :(
This is not acceptable for either the teachers to tell you that or for your kids to have to quit without a chance. I am meeting with all the teachers this Sunday afternoon for planning. I will investigate and get back with you next week if that’s ok. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.
From: Me [mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org] Sent: Thursday, October 02, 2008 9:28 AMTo: mailto:You@comporium.net: Concern
I just wanted to let you know that I am pulling DQ and WM from the children's choir program. I was told by the teachers that WM is a disruption to the other children and it would be better if he didn't continue to come to class. To say that I am disappointed is an understatement. I understand that WM can be a "lot of boy" at times and he might not be ready to participate in something like the program, but I also feel like the situation wasn't handled approriately. For the last three weeks, the teacher has told me of "issues" with him.
Three Wednesday's ago, it was pointed out that he had an accident and had to go potty during class. I do take my children to the bathroom just prior to the start of class, but he is three and when he has to go he can't hold it. I didn't feel that this really needed to even be brought up but I let it slide. Two Wednesday's ago WM was having a bad day and he didn't do well in class and refused to share. This was inappropriate behavior on his part and I had a long talk with him and he had priveldges taken away for being bad. In this instance, I completely understand the concern. Then last night, I kept a close eye on him through the window to see what was going on. About halfway through the class I noticed that he was climbing in the chairs and wasn't participating. Since I wasn't in the classroom, I am not sure how much interaction the teachers were having with him since I wasn't watching from the beginning. However, from a mother's perspective it seems that the teachers had given up on him several weeks ago. He is in daycare full time and they have different activities (to include music) and he sits still and participates without any problems. I appears to me (as an outside parent) that he was never given a chance to get comfortable with the teachers and no one took the time to try to bond with him and get him to participate. I realize that it is a short class, but with children that young I would expect the leaders of the class to be able to try to nurture those that have a hard time a little. Maybe I have too high expectations. I would have been more than willing to try to get him more involved or sat in the class with him to try to get him to particiapte, but I was never given the opportunity to try to come up with any other solution other than to stop bringing him. I don't see a point in bringing DQ and not WM. That would just be adding salt to the wound.
Anyway, thank you for the opportunity and I wish your program continued success.