Thursday, July 05, 2007
BFF?
Remember when you were kids? You thought that you would be friends with your best friend(s) forever and ever? What a deluded and naive world we lived in. Ignorance is bliss they say. And it will be a LONG time before I have that talk with the kiddos. A good friend (RIP Chad) even said so at the ripe old age of 16 when we were still in high school. At the time I thought he was crazy as hell. Now I know he was wise well beyond his years.
I miss having a BFF. Hell, I miss having friends period. Other than AM, my children, and the occassional on-line "friend" I have no friends. None. Zip. Zero. No one to call and cry to when AM and I have a fight, no one to brag when he or the kids are espeically sweet, no one to just hang with. And.it.sucks!
I try to make new friends, but it just isn't as easy as it used to be. Once you are out of that atmosphere (school, college, etc) and get married and start being a real adult it is so much harder. Time is limited and childcare is an issue. Honestly, I don't know how to do it anymore. And I often wonder if I would be a good friend anyway. Most days I am much to absorbed in my own life most of the time to take time out for someone else. Maybe therein lies the problem?
Recently an old BFF contacted me and told me that they were coming home for a few days. I didn't get to see this person since they were proposing and getting married during the short trip home (congrats again K if you are reading this!) This started me thinking about "the good ol' days". Days of parties, hanging out, acting silly, and driving to the beach just for dinner. Even though there is no way that any of us could have kept up the pace we had back then, it sure was fun. Nowadays, sporatic emails and short occassional phone calls are the norm. Everyone is too busy and our lives have gone in such different directions that things aren't as easy and comfortable anymore. Bittersweet memories since I miss those days and wish that some people had remained in my life.
Hopefully, some day I can say that I have a BFF again. What's your BFF story?
I miss having a BFF. Hell, I miss having friends period. Other than AM, my children, and the occassional on-line "friend" I have no friends. None. Zip. Zero. No one to call and cry to when AM and I have a fight, no one to brag when he or the kids are espeically sweet, no one to just hang with. And.it.sucks!
I try to make new friends, but it just isn't as easy as it used to be. Once you are out of that atmosphere (school, college, etc) and get married and start being a real adult it is so much harder. Time is limited and childcare is an issue. Honestly, I don't know how to do it anymore. And I often wonder if I would be a good friend anyway. Most days I am much to absorbed in my own life most of the time to take time out for someone else. Maybe therein lies the problem?
Recently an old BFF contacted me and told me that they were coming home for a few days. I didn't get to see this person since they were proposing and getting married during the short trip home (congrats again K if you are reading this!) This started me thinking about "the good ol' days". Days of parties, hanging out, acting silly, and driving to the beach just for dinner. Even though there is no way that any of us could have kept up the pace we had back then, it sure was fun. Nowadays, sporatic emails and short occassional phone calls are the norm. Everyone is too busy and our lives have gone in such different directions that things aren't as easy and comfortable anymore. Bittersweet memories since I miss those days and wish that some people had remained in my life.
Hopefully, some day I can say that I have a BFF again. What's your BFF story?
Labels: contemplation
2 Comments:
Hi Carrie!! Long time no talk :)
Meetup.com - do it!! You can go and find a group in your area that has people looking for similar interests as you do. You can do child meetups, movie meetups, restaurant meetups, everythign. That is how I met my 5 Bff's... I seriously had no friends when I moved here, but now I have 5 great friends that I hang out with at least twice a week. It took a little while, but it was so worth it!
Now go - meetup.com.
I just reconnected with my old BFF L.C. from high school. It has been great getting to know her again. You must read the book "The Myth of You and Me"...it is about this very thing. You will love it! BTW, I miss Chad too.
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