Friday, July 07, 2006
Boone Here I Come!
I am so excited! One of my closest friends, and college roommate Ruth, has invited me to Boone for the weekend. Two days with no kids and no responsilities other than to relax and have a good time. Yipppeee!!!
I hadn't planned on going or doing anything this weekend. Ruth called me on the 4th and scheduled an imprompto get-together at her house. I have not been to my home away from home since I graduated in 2000 and I have to say that I miss it so much. I have a feeling I will miss it even more after getting up there. Boone is a beautiful place. A small, quaint college town nestled in the valley of the Blue Ridge Mountains. I still kick myself to this day that I didn't take advantage of the opportunities provided there (sking, camping, etc) while I could. Oh well, nothing I can do about it now I suppose.
This will be the first time I have gone on an overnight trip without DH since I moved in with him in 2000 (except for business trips). Evidently, DH has a problem with the speed at which this trip was thrown together. Nevermind the fact that I sometimes only get an hours notice that he is headed to Harrah's for the evening. He seems to have forgotten that. When his dad is home they go at least monthly, while I am stuck at home with the kiddos. I don't mind, but it pisses me off when he can't return the favor. Is it too much to ask that I spend some time with my friends? I mean damn...it has been 7 years since Ruth and I got together. I have posted multiple times regarding my lonlieness and lack of friends and DH and I have had multiple conversations on the same subject.
When I called to ask him if it would be ok that I spend the weekend with Ruth, he said that was fine if I found someone to keep the kids Saturday since he had a Mason's thing. Fine...done. He then stated that he wanted me to have dinner with the family before I left. Ok, fine. The next day he tells me I have to be home by noon so that he can go do a side job. That means I have to leave Boone at 9 am to make it home in time. Ok, fine. Then I am leaving right after work to head up there so that I can spend a little more time with my friend. Apparently, this is where DH stops listening to me and starts treating me like a child.
I have spent the last two days practically begging him to let me leave from work instead of coming home first. I want to get up there before 5 pm traffic since there is crazy construction in the area. Not to mention the Ruth's house in the middle of the woods and I am relying on MapQuest to get me there. I don't want to do to in the dark. And besides, does it make much sense to get there at 10 pm? Then he tells me that I never told him that it was going to be for 2 nights. He would be better if it was just Saturday night, etc. What difference does it make? Who knows. In a nutshell, it boils down to I didn't give him enough notice and he doesn't like that I am going to be out having fun.
Hello? I am not your child. I shouldn't have to ask you permission to do anything. I have shed many a tear over not having any friends. Maybe this is why...I can't do anything unless King DH approves. GAH!
Anyway, I won that battle I guess. He said I could go "but I owe him 6 nameless favors"- whatever that means.
All I know if I am going to party like it's 1999 all over again. !
I hadn't planned on going or doing anything this weekend. Ruth called me on the 4th and scheduled an imprompto get-together at her house. I have not been to my home away from home since I graduated in 2000 and I have to say that I miss it so much. I have a feeling I will miss it even more after getting up there. Boone is a beautiful place. A small, quaint college town nestled in the valley of the Blue Ridge Mountains. I still kick myself to this day that I didn't take advantage of the opportunities provided there (sking, camping, etc) while I could. Oh well, nothing I can do about it now I suppose.
This will be the first time I have gone on an overnight trip without DH since I moved in with him in 2000 (except for business trips). Evidently, DH has a problem with the speed at which this trip was thrown together. Nevermind the fact that I sometimes only get an hours notice that he is headed to Harrah's for the evening. He seems to have forgotten that. When his dad is home they go at least monthly, while I am stuck at home with the kiddos. I don't mind, but it pisses me off when he can't return the favor. Is it too much to ask that I spend some time with my friends? I mean damn...it has been 7 years since Ruth and I got together. I have posted multiple times regarding my lonlieness and lack of friends and DH and I have had multiple conversations on the same subject.
When I called to ask him if it would be ok that I spend the weekend with Ruth, he said that was fine if I found someone to keep the kids Saturday since he had a Mason's thing. Fine...done. He then stated that he wanted me to have dinner with the family before I left. Ok, fine. The next day he tells me I have to be home by noon so that he can go do a side job. That means I have to leave Boone at 9 am to make it home in time. Ok, fine. Then I am leaving right after work to head up there so that I can spend a little more time with my friend. Apparently, this is where DH stops listening to me and starts treating me like a child.
I have spent the last two days practically begging him to let me leave from work instead of coming home first. I want to get up there before 5 pm traffic since there is crazy construction in the area. Not to mention the Ruth's house in the middle of the woods and I am relying on MapQuest to get me there. I don't want to do to in the dark. And besides, does it make much sense to get there at 10 pm? Then he tells me that I never told him that it was going to be for 2 nights. He would be better if it was just Saturday night, etc. What difference does it make? Who knows. In a nutshell, it boils down to I didn't give him enough notice and he doesn't like that I am going to be out having fun.
Hello? I am not your child. I shouldn't have to ask you permission to do anything. I have shed many a tear over not having any friends. Maybe this is why...I can't do anything unless King DH approves. GAH!
Anyway, I won that battle I guess. He said I could go "but I owe him 6 nameless favors"- whatever that means.
All I know if I am going to party like it's 1999 all over again. !
1 Comments:
Owe him? You OWE him, because you are actually taking some time to leave the house and go see a friend? And you had to ask his permission?!? His freakin' permission?!?
Wow...someone's living in a fantasy world of power...and I don't think it's you!
Does this mean that HE owes YOU 600 "nameless favors" for all the times he's left you stuck with the kids? What about all the times you both worked really hard all day but his day ended when he left work, and yours didn't end until everyone was in bed? Does he ask your "permission" or just inform you when he's headed out to gamble? What would happen if he came home from work and you met him at the door, handed him the kids, and said "see you later, I'm going gambling tonight"?
Sorry...I know I sound insanely judgemental, and I apologize. It just makes me ache inside that you are so sad and that you have so little control of your own life.
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