This is not acceptable for either the teachers to tell you that or for your kids to have to quit without a chance. I am meeting with all the teachers this Sunday afternoon for planning. I will investigate and get back with you next week if that’s ok. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.
From: Me [mailto:email@example.com] Sent: Thursday, October 02, 2008 9:28 AMTo: mailto:You@comporium.net: Concern
I just wanted to let you know that I am pulling DQ and WM from the children's choir program. I was told by the teachers that WM is a disruption to the other children and it would be better if he didn't continue to come to class. To say that I am disappointed is an understatement. I understand that WM can be a "lot of boy" at times and he might not be ready to participate in something like the program, but I also feel like the situation wasn't handled approriately. For the last three weeks, the teacher has told me of "issues" with him.
Three Wednesday's ago, it was pointed out that he had an accident and had to go potty during class. I do take my children to the bathroom just prior to the start of class, but he is three and when he has to go he can't hold it. I didn't feel that this really needed to even be brought up but I let it slide. Two Wednesday's ago WM was having a bad day and he didn't do well in class and refused to share. This was inappropriate behavior on his part and I had a long talk with him and he had priveldges taken away for being bad. In this instance, I completely understand the concern. Then last night, I kept a close eye on him through the window to see what was going on. About halfway through the class I noticed that he was climbing in the chairs and wasn't participating. Since I wasn't in the classroom, I am not sure how much interaction the teachers were having with him since I wasn't watching from the beginning. However, from a mother's perspective it seems that the teachers had given up on him several weeks ago. He is in daycare full time and they have different activities (to include music) and he sits still and participates without any problems. I appears to me (as an outside parent) that he was never given a chance to get comfortable with the teachers and no one took the time to try to bond with him and get him to participate. I realize that it is a short class, but with children that young I would expect the leaders of the class to be able to try to nurture those that have a hard time a little. Maybe I have too high expectations. I would have been more than willing to try to get him more involved or sat in the class with him to try to get him to particiapte, but I was never given the opportunity to try to come up with any other solution other than to stop bringing him. I don't see a point in bringing DQ and not WM. That would just be adding salt to the wound.
Anyway, thank you for the opportunity and I wish your program continued success.